Bitter, not the the new black!

Are you green with envy or bitter because someone has something you don't have...I am sure everyone just said ummm yep. But who wants to admit it? Not very many of us.

I will be honest, I get bitter pretty easily and it is one of my work in progress things. Better cars, bigger houses, fitter bodies, smaller jeans, bigger trust funds (ok let's be honest any trust fund), there are a thousand things everyday that I think man, I just wish I had what she has and then I think to something a trusted friend told me awhile ago. I asked her to kindly remind me to be thankful of my husband and she said in her very wise ways "do your kids ever ask you if their daddy will recognize them in heaven?" Yes, she is a widow and a very wise one indeed. She puts a lot of things into perspective for me, actually a ton of things. But me being bitter, envious, jealous whatever adjective you would like to throw in there is very often brought back to reality because of my dear friend.

In the season of giving and receiving, the true meanings of lots of things are lost. I will be bitter because a friend got a new car, a diamond ring, boobs, whatever for Christmas and I got sweat pants (yes, this did happen one year). But to be very honest, after careful examination I bet someone is envious of me because I got my sweatpants from a kind husband in a warm home on a great Christmas morning. We all try to keep up with the Jones' and often lose sight of what we truly need versus want in life. It is counterproductive, a total energy suck to be bitter about someone having more than you. First, you don't know how they got it or if they are in dept to their eyeballs for it and for those things you can't buy (fitness etc) you don't know how often those folks are in the gym or what they eat or if they are genetically inclined to be fit.

I will be very honest, recently I heard a story of someone I knew in a former life having plastic surgery....I was pissed. But why did I care, did I think she may look better than I did? Maybe she will, but I can hang my hat on the fact that my body is the way it is because I work my rearend off, not because I decide to go under the knife and not put in the work. And in the end, I have to be proud of what I am able to accomplish.

There will always be someone with more than you. Trust me. There is no golden egg to having everything we want. The trick is to be happy with what you have and making the best life possible. Bitterness is a nasty sour drink, there is no need to take any part in it. Let it go, remove yourself from those things that make you bitter and be THANKFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE. It is a hard adult lesson and even at 33, I don't have it mastered but I am getting better. Remember this holiday season to be very thankful for what you have, there are people who would love to be you, you just don't realize that because often times we are trying to be someone else.

Stay away from the crap food and do some cardio.....:)
Happy holidays.